When we asked what would help you most right now, over half of you said managing low motivation. It’s a reminder that what looks like “laziness” is often something deeper: grief, stress, or simple human fatigue. Today, we’ll slow down and look at how to rebuild momentum with compassion instead of pressure.
Today’s Quick Overview:
🌟 Self-Worth Spotlight: Your worth isn’t tied to healing speed…
🗣️ What Your Emotions Are Saying: Fear of shifting priorities signals growth…
📰 Mental Health News: Cyberbullying; post-2020 stress reshapes wellbeing…
🙏 Daily Practice: Honor your current season without judgment…
Let's explore who you were before this moment and who you're becoming:
Who were you before today? Someone who survived Monday with all its imperfections? And who are you becoming? Someone building momentum one small choice at a time, or someone learning that consistency matters more than perfection?
QUICK POLL
Everyone's starting from a different place. What would feel like a win for you by the end of this week?
What would success look like for this week, given where you started?
SELF-WORTH SPOTLIGHT
This Week’s Challenge: The "Grief Pace" Acceptance
What it is: Notice how you judge yourself for still feeling the weight of loss, whether it's been weeks, months, or years. Grief doesn't follow a timeline, and low motivation after loss isn't laziness or "not healing right." This week, practice accepting that your pace through grief is exactly what it needs to be, and that your worth isn't measured by how quickly you bounce back.
Example scenarios:
Years after losing someone and still having days where motivation disappears, feeling like you "should be over it by now."
Struggling to complete daily tasks and using that as proof you're not healing properly. Feeling guilty for having good days, as if moving forward means forgetting.
Judging yourself for needing more rest or gentleness years after a loss because you think there's an expiration date on grief.
Why it works: Grief is not linear, and it doesn't have a deadline. Some losses reshape your entire life, and expecting yourself to return to "normal" productivity dismisses the magnitude of what you're carrying. Self-compassion during grief actually supports healing better than self-criticism.
Try this: When you notice low motivation and realize grief is part of it, pause the judgment. Say to yourself: "I'm carrying something heavy. My pace is allowed to be slower. This doesn't mean I'm broken." Let one thing be enough today.
Therapist insight: Grief and love share the same space. The depth of your grief often reflects the depth of your love or attachment. Your worth doesn't depend on "getting over it" on anyone else's timeline.
Reframe this week: Instead of "I should be past this by now," think "My grief moves at its own pace, and my worth isn't tied to how quickly I heal."
Celebrate this: Every day you keep going while carrying grief is evidence of your strength, not your failure. You don't have to bounce back to be worthy; you're worthy right now, in the middle of it.
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WHAT YOUR EMOTIONS ARE SAYING
Getting Scared When You Don't Recognize Your Own Priorities Anymore
Things that used to matter deeply to you now feel distant. Maybe the career you poured yourself into doesn't light you up anymore, or the goals you've been chasing suddenly feel hollow. You find yourself going through the motions of priorities that no longer fit.
The scariest part isn't that things changed, it's that you're not sure who you are without those old anchors. Instead of judging the confusion, ask: What is this feeling trying to tell me about what season of life I'm actually in?
Hidden Question: "If I let go of who I thought I should be, will I know who I actually am?"
Why It Matters: Shifting priorities often aren't about losing yourself. They're about outgrowing a version of yourself that made sense in a different season. What mattered at 25 might not resonate at 45. But we can feel guilty or scared about that evolution.
This fear might be pointing toward grief for who you used to be, or anxiety about building a new identity when the old one feels increasingly foreign.
Try This: When you feel that scary disconnect from your own priorities, instead of forcing yourself to care about things that no longer fit, ask: "What actually energizes me right now, even if it's completely different from before?"
Maybe it's rest when you used to crave achievement, or connection when you used to value independence, or simplicity when you used to chase more. Sometimes the fear lifts when we give ourselves permission to want different things in different seasons.
DAILY PRACTICE
Affirmation
I can honor where I am right now instead of forcing myself to be somewhere else. Each season of life has its own rhythm, and fighting mine only exhausts me.
Gratitude
Think of one way your current season, however challenging, has taught you something valuable. Even difficult phases carry gifts you couldn't receive anywhere else.
Permission
It's okay to not be at your peak right now. Rest seasons, rebuilding seasons, and uncertainty seasons are just as necessary as the productive ones.
Try This Today (2 minutes):
Ask yourself honestly: "What season am I in right now?" (Growth? Rest? Grief? Transition? Building? Surviving?) Name it without judgment. Then ask: "What does this season need from me, and am I giving myself permission to meet it there?"
THERAPIST- APPROVED SCRIPTS
When Relatives Expect You to Take Sides in Their Divorce/Separation
The Scenario: Family members are going through a divorce, and both sides are trying to get you to validate their version of events or choose a side. You're being asked "whose side are you on?" You want to maintain relationships with everyone, but the pressure to declare loyalty is making an already painful situation worse.
Try saying this: "I value my relationship with both of you, and I'm not comfortable being positioned in the middle of your divorce. I want to be here for each of you separately, but I can't participate in the conflict itself."
Why It Works: You're making it clear this isn't about choosing who you love more, being direct that you won't participate in the conflict, and preserving connections with both people.
Pro Tip: If they respond with "but you don't know what they did to me," say: "I understand you're hurt, and I'm here to listen about how you're doing. But I can't be the person who validates one side against the other." You can care about both people without becoming an ally in their conflict.
MENTAL HEALTH NEWS
Cyberbullying’s mental toll ‘doesn’t stop at the screen,’ expert warns
French public-health researcher Dr. Mickaël Worms-Ehrminger says cyberbullying drives anxiety, stress, and low self-esteem, with cases rising as up to 1 in 4 children and over half of young adults report victimization.Therapist: Post-2020 stress has rewired brains, making true rest harder
A trauma psychotherapist says years of chronic stress since 2020 have pushed many into hypervigilance, altering stress circuits and blunting the brain’s ability to “switch off.” He urges treating rest as repair to retrain nervous systems back to calm.
Evening Reset: Notice, Write, Settle
Visualization
Picture a tree through the four seasons. In spring, it bursts with new growth. In summer, it offers shade and fruit. In autumn, it releases what no longer serves. In winter, it rests, appearing dormant while roots deepen underground. Each season is necessary; none is better than the others. The tree doesn't apologize for being bare in winter or try to bloom year-round. Tonight, you can give yourself that same seasonal grace.
Journal
Spend three minutes writing: What season am I actually in, and how have I been judging myself for not being in a different one?
Gentle Review
Close your notebook and ask yourself: Where did I push myself today in ways that ignored my current capacity? What would acceptance of this season look like? How can I stop measuring myself against people in completely different seasons tomorrow?
Shared Wisdom
"Be aware of what season you are in and give yourself the grace to be there." — Kristen Dalton
Pocket Reminder
You're not behind; you're in a different season, and that season has its own wisdom to offer.
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WEDNESDAY’S PREVIEW
Coming Wednesday: What to say when you need support, not solutions, from your partner, and how to ask for check-ins and encouragement instead of constant problem-solving advice.
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