One Minute to Feel

As the week winds down, many people feel a quiet tug between rest and responsibility. Today’s issue centers on calm confidence: taking up space without apology, stepping out of your head and into your body, and protecting your peace even when the world keeps asking for more.

Today’s Quick Overview:

🌟Confidence Builders: The confidence of taking up space…
🗣️ The Overthinking Toolkit: When you try to think your way out of feeling…
📰 Mental Health News: Fitness apps; learning by doing
🙏 Daily Practice: Cultivating calm through small spacious acts…

Let's see what you're holding onto and what's ready to be released:

What are you holding as the week winds down? Gratitude for progress or anticipation of rest? And what's ready to be let go? The rush to finish everything or guilt about what you didn't do. Choose wisely what to carry into Friday.

Everyone's path to peace looks different, so we're curious: what would help you cultivate more calm in your daily life?

The Confidence of Taking Up Space

What it is: Taking up space means not apologizing for your presence, contributions, or needs in everyday situations. This practice involves noticing when you automatically say "sorry" for things that don't warrant an apology, like asking a question, stating an opinion, or simply existing in a shared space.

Why it works: Over-apologizing sends a signal to yourself and others that your presence is somehow an imposition. When you stop reflexively apologizing for normal behavior, you're practicing assertive communication by expressing yourself clearly without either aggression or self-diminishment. This shift actually changes how others perceive and respond to you.

This week's challenge: Pay attention to how often you apologize this week, and catch yourself when you're about to say "sorry" for something that isn't actually a problem, like asking a question, taking time to think, or needing something.

Instead of "Sorry, can I ask something?" try "Can I ask something?" Instead of "Sorry to bother you," try "Do you have a minute?" Keep track of how many unnecessary apologies you catch and replace.

Reframe this week: Instead of "Sorry for taking up your time/space/attention," → "My presence, questions, and needs are legitimate and don't require an apology."

Try this today: Notice one moment where you would typically apologize unnecessarily and consciously skip the apology. See how it feels to just say what you need without the preamble.

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When You Try to Think Your Way Out of Feeling

What's happening: You're feeling sad, so you start analyzing why: Did I not sleep enough? Maybe I need more vitamin D. You create a mental flowchart instead of just letting yourself feel sad.

You're anxious about an upcoming event, and you spend hours trying to logic your way out of it. You list all the reasons it's "irrational," but somehow, you still feel anxious.

You're angry at someone, but instead of acknowledging the anger, you immediately start intellectualizing it by analyzing their motivations, explaining away your reaction. You turn your feelings into a research project.

Why your brain does this: Feelings can be uncomfortable and unpredictable, while thinking feels productive and controllable. Your brain learned that emotions might be unsafe or unwelcome, so it developed a strategy: if you can understand the feeling thoroughly enough, maybe you can make it go away.

The irony is that analyzing your emotions keeps you stuck in your head and disconnected from your body, which is where emotions actually need to be processed.

Today's Spiral Breaker: The "Feel First, Think Later" Pause

When you notice yourself trying to analyze your way out of an emotion:

Reality Check: Understanding why you feel something doesn't make the feeling disappear. Sometimes you just need to let yourself feel it, breathe through it, and trust that it will pass on its own.

I can cultivate calm in the middle of chaos. Peace isn't something I have to chase or earn; it's already present, waiting for me to notice it.

Think of one quiet moment this week when you felt unexpectedly at ease, even briefly. That stillness is always available; you just have to turn toward it.

It's okay to protect your peace fiercely, even if that means disappointing people or saying no to good opportunities. Calm isn't a luxury; it's a necessity.

Clear one small space today. It could be your desk, your phone's home screen, a cluttered corner, or even five minutes in your calendar. Notice how physical or mental spaciousness invites a quieter internal state.

When Someone Constantly Needs Favors But Is Never Available When You Need Help

The Scenario: You have someone in your life who regularly asks you for help: rides, lending money, emotional support, moving assistance, and you've been there for them repeatedly. But when you need something, they're suddenly busy, have excuses, or just don't follow through. The relationship feels completely one-sided, and you're realizing you're being treated like a resource rather than a friend.

In-the-Moment Script: "I've helped you out a lot, and I've noticed that when I need something, you're not available. I need our friendship to feel more balanced."

Why It Works: This points out the pattern without being accusatory, shows you've been keeping track of the imbalance, and states clearly what needs to change without issuing an ultimatum.

Pro Tip: If they respond with excuses about why they haven't been available, you can say: "I hear that you've been busy, and I need to see some reciprocity in this friendship going forward. I can't keep being the only one who shows up." Real friendships involve mutual care and effort, not just one person constantly giving while the other takes.

Picture a still pond hidden in the woods. The world around it is full of noise and motion, but the water remains undisturbed at its center. The chaos doesn't need to stop for the pond to be calm; the pond just needs to remain itself. Tonight, you can remember that peace doesn't require perfect conditions. It requires you to stop filling every moment and let stillness emerge naturally.

Spend three minutes writing: What am I filling my life with that crowds out peace, and what would it feel like to deliberately leave some space empty?

Close your notebook and ask yourself: Where did I feel most at ease today, and what made that possible? What's one thing I could remove from my life that would create more room for calm? How can I protect my peace tomorrow without guilt?

"Peace is always right here. You just have to create space for it." — Carol Tuttle

Peace doesn't arrive when life slows down; it appears when you stop filling every gap with noise.

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Coming Friday: Feeling in control makes you more likely to actually solve your problems, and why even small shifts from "almost no control" to "a little control" can dramatically change whether you tackle challenges or let them compound.

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